Wednesday, April 10, 2013

Rebecca Ward's Thoughts on Being Nice in Public


Thanks to Rebecca Ward for sharing this blog!

Years ago my sweetest daughter-in-law and I slipped away and went to a movie. It was called “Pay It Forward” and as you might suspect, the theme was how to keep kindness to others moving from person to person. Very heartwarming movie. Yet in the midst of all the goodwill being spread around on the big screen,someone’s cell phone burst into song and immediately boos and hisses rang through the theatre . Not kind, not patient or accepting were these reprimanding folk sharing the auditorium.  I almost shouted out “Hey, pay it forward” but decided silence was the better choice. The poor woman with the operatic phone sunk in her seat after frantically shutting it off.
I often think about why strangers aren’t kinder to each other. I watch angry drivers and hurried shoppers in apoplectic states when another driver stops on yellow or the shopper ahead pulls out coupons. It’s  as if the children had been sold or the house disappeared into a sink hole, big events that warrant a strong emotional response. But being delayed 3 minutes? Or 7 or whatever. No kindness, no patience.  It seems that others are not our fellow planet dwellers but impediments to our needs being met in a speedy manner.
So I was so surprised today to have several strangers do nice things for me. One nice young woman held the door open for me and wished me a good day! Another let me into traffic when two lanes turned into one..and she did it with a wave and a smile! The sales folks I encountered were friendly and helpful and seemed glad I was there instead of ticked because I interrupted their texting. Oh, and a very nice man let me ahead of him in the grocery store line because I had fewer items and he wasn’t in a hurry! Swell!
It has all been lovely and I’ve felt positive and energized by all the consideration and kindness shown to me….by strangers!! I am going to “pay it forward”. I am not going  to wait until the last minute to head to an appointment so I am stressed to get there on time and other people not being in a hurry frustrates me and I start engaging  unflattering “traffic   talk” which isn’t very nice. I will not go to the grocery store if my time isn’t flexible. I’m going  to be nicer and more considerate to others.
I’ve made up my mind.  I’m really going to do this. Wouldn’t it be grand if being nice to each other was contagious?
Rebecca Ward

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