Love Is Blind....In The Beginning

February is all about the heart, from heart health to matters of the heart.  With that in mind, Rebecca Ward decided to focus on matters of the heart for her blog entry.  In the beginning, love can not only be blind, it may be deaf and mute as well. Those first weeks and months, when we are struck by love in all its passion, we really don't see anything wrong with this most perfect of persons with whom we are mutually in a state of adoration. Never has another been so perfectly attuned to us and we to them. Now we understand completely the answer to the age-old question "How will I know when I fall in love?" All those people who said "You'll know" were absolutely correct. We now know! Courtship is a wonderful, hedonistic, narcissistic, endorphin-enhanced time that no recreational drug can produce. Falling in love is the hormone equivalent of the Northern Lights! We are in an acute state of awareness both emotionally and physically that makes us feel so good we may not need much food or sleep. We aren't tired and we aren't hungry. We're in love and that's about all that we can handle without fritzing out our neurotransmitters! What happens in this state of courtship is that each of the smitten is only interested in meeting the needs of the other smitten-one. Each exists to meet the other's needs and eschew sincerely that that's all he/she needs to maintain this state of mutual ecstasy. And we feel that way. It's enough to be with this other person, to bask in their affection and admiration and even adoration of us as we return those sentiments in full measure. What's not to be thrilled about? We've waited forever to meet this perfect-for-us person who makes the drive to work less frustrating and the sun shine brighter. Even the annoying co-worker at the office becomes more tolerable! We have a new-found patience and acceptance for mankind in general as we now are experiencing life's wondrous gift of true love. Reciprocal true love, I must add. We are all entitied to this magical time of new love. Cherish every moment and committ to memory because it only lasts a relatively short time. For before too many months fade into the past, we may be noticing that our perfect other may have a tiny tiny little imperfection  or two that can easily be over-looked...I mean being late is not really that big a deal, is it? He is always so apologetic. And so what if the inside of her car looks like a landfill. And who really worries about doggy poo on a carpet? She loves that little cutie pie who sheds like stale cornbread and who has repeatedly offended and violated my lower leg. None of these things matter because every thing else feels so good." Really I can over look most of these trifling little quirks," we think and we believe it. Kinda. Since couples in courtship don't do much if any confronting of "issues" lest they spoil their perfect illusion, all this can wait for courtship to turn into relationship. More on that next week!